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Wedding dresses: a tradition adopted by lesbian wedding outfits

Same-sex weddings are rewriting a whole tradition. In most cases they are reinventing a completely new one. Despite this, most of the straight wedding apparel tradition has been adopted (and re-adapted) by lesbian wedding outfits. And among things that are not meant to be left, there is the wedding dress, still long, still white.  

What do today’s same-sex couples want to keep and what do they want to throw away about straight bridal wear tradition?

1 – You can’t see the bride’s dress before wedding

bride's dress

With some exceptions that naturally exist, being wedding a intimate and personal moment above all, the trend among same-sex couples is not to give importance to this tradition that seems stale and sometimes forced. Gay and lesbian couples generally think that keeping the wedding wear a secret has no much sense, especially if both are wearing the same outfit.

2 – White dress for the brides

The new LGBTQ tradition about wedding has increased the customization level, also for what concerns gay or lesbian wedding outfits. Gay and lesbian couples feel much more free to express their personality through their personal style. Despite this, most of lesbian brides still choose a white dress, probably leaving behind the symbolic meaning of purity and virginity but still wanting to keep a link with tradition.  

3 – The bouquet

lesbian wedding bouquet toss

Even though you can still see lesbian bride holding it, and tossing it to sigle women with the believe that who catches it will be the next to merry, its’a tradition borrowed from straight weddings that is slowly disappearing.

4- Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue

4- something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue

These are the four things that must be part of the lesbian wedding outfits and that the bride should wear while she’s walking through the isle. This is supposed to bring good luck in her marriage. This tradition comes from a traditional rhyme that details what a bride should wear for her wedding:

Something old,
something new,
something borrowed,
something blue,
and a sixpence in her shoe.

This custom comes from England and probably dates back to the Victorian Age. Another tradition is about to be forgotten, without regrets, by same-sex brides and grooms.

5 – Bridal veil as part of the lesbian wedding outfits

bridal veil

A tradition that is slowly disappearing in same-sex weddings. The tradition of the wedding veil comes from old times, when weddings were in most part pre-defined by families. At that time the groom’s family did not permit the groom to see the bride before the ceremony to prevent him to refuse, once he saw her, to get married.  In more recent times the veil was worn to keep the bride look secret and as a symbol of good luck.

topper for a gay wedding cake

Gay wedding cake: colors and flavors more popular among celebrities

Are there particular direction to observe when choosing the cake for a same sex weddings? Not really. The gay wedding new tradition has already shown that the possibilities are many, it depends from several factors such as the style of the whole event, and, of course, the taste of the couple.  A gay wedding cake has not necessarily to be a rainbow one, and the choice of the topper is optional. So LGBTQ or straight, let’s get inspired by the best celebrity wedding cakes!


1. Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi

ellen degeneres and portia the rossi gay wedding cake

Already ten years has passed but Ellen and Portia’s wedding remains one of the most stylish. They choose a beautiful red velvet cake in vegan version, adorned with pink and purple roses.

2. Meghan Markle and Prince Harry

meghan and harry wedding cake

Definitely a more classical one: Meghan and Harry decided to brake the royal tradition with their wedding cake that differed from other royal cakes: instead of the traditional fruitcake the couple have chosen an elderflower cake decorated with buttercream and fresh white flowers.

3. Avril Lavigne and Deryck Whibley

Avril Lavigne and Deryck Whibley wedding cake

A white four-tiered cake, which was half-chocolate and half-vanilla (reflecting the different tastes of the couple) decorated with white roses.

4 . Pippa Middleton and James Matthews

Pippa Middleton and James Matthews wedding cake
A traditional and colorful multi-tiered fruit cake for Pippa Middleton sister of Kate, Duchess of Cambridge.

5. George Clooney and Amal Alamuddin

George Clooney and Amal Alamuddin wedding cake

A magnificent white and golden three tiered art deco-style wedding cake for the Hollywood actor that got married in Venice to Amal Alamuddin.

6. Bianca Balti & Matthew McRae

Bianca Balti & Matthew McRae wedding cake

The Italian supermodel got married to Matthew McRae in California. The wedding cake was a naked cake, decorated with flowers and lemon and orange fruits and leaves.


Gay or lesbian wedding rings: from tradition’s origins to the present

Wedding ring is still today a symbol of the eternal bond between two people that wearing it promise to join their lives with the partner. That of the wedding ring is a tradition coming from ancient times. Let’s find out more about its origins, its meaning nowadays, the differences with the engagement ring and which is the right finger for gay or lesbian wedding rings.


The anulus (in latin) was a “small circle” used from ancient times to adorn hands or arms and, sometimes, also feet. But beyond this aesthetic function the ring has assumed during time other symbolic meanings, thanks to its particular shape, without beginning or end, able to represent the spacial perfection of the life circle ant that of eternity. The ring was also used as a royal seal, starting from ancient Egyptians that used to put on them snakes or beetles. The ring was also used to indicate a social status, as emblem of power and authority. The Greeks used to apply cameos or engravings on it, Roman matrons a small key, sign of their authority in the house. For centuries, Roman senators and magistrates had the exclusive right to wear the golden ring. During the middle age, from the ninth century, kings during their coronation, and bishops for their consecration manifested their authority wearing a golden ring.


The Christian use of the exchange of ring during the wedding celebration is probably dated back to Ninth century. The mystic circular shape, perfection of the union, assumed the meaning of mutual loyalty, while the gold, usually yellow, instead of iron, represents in the christian tradition, the eternity of the bond. So that the braking of the ring predicts disasters. In sixteenth century people started to wear one or more rings with seals or precious stones and became widely used to wear the ring also after the ceremony. Only in eighteenth century became common use to engrave inside it names and dates.


An ancient Egyptian belief thought that a small artery, called in Latin vena amoris (vein of love) ran through the ring finger of the left hand directly to the heart.

Not everywhere the ring is worn on the left hand. In Eastern and Northern Europe the wedding ring is worn on the right hand. The same in some countries of South America, while in the past, in England it was worn on the thumb finger.


Now that same sex wedding has been institutionalized, the question is: is there a different tradition in wearing a gay or a lesbian wedding ring? As it often happens with still in the making traditions, we can trace a tendency, that of wearing the engagement ring on the right hand, and the wedding ring on the fourth finger of the left hand, as in straight wedding, but there are many exceptions, mostly among lesbians, that prefer wearing the engagement ring on the left hand and the wedding ring on the right. 


Wedding planner: less stress and more fun for the stars of the party!

You probably happened to attend a wedding party and see the overwhelmed bride or groom desperately waiting for the party to start to grab his/her first drink and forget all sorrows! If we’re talking about a destination wedding, the stress level increases exponentially because the couple has to face every aspect of the planning process from far away, often trying to solve problems in a language they do not know, within an unknown legal framework.

That’s the role of an Italian destination wedding planner: to manage all paperwork, to organize every detail not only of the creative process but also all those less appealing aspects, often from a far timezone, giving the grooms/brides the chance to think only to pleasant things while he/she solves out most of the problems.

The destination wedding planner is a professional that knows in depth Italy and can help you to find the region that most suits your needs. He/she is ready to support, suggest and help you to keep calm while waiting the big date. So that you can have fun searching wedding attire or decoration  ideas on Pinterest.

But the most important goal of the wedding planner is to help you to stay on budget. Once you have defined a budget, he/she can help you to obtain the maximum from it optimizing every cost item.

The wedding planner experience also prevents you from unpleasant surprises because he/she already knows most of suppliers. If you chose a real professional you can fully enjoy both the organizational period and, above all, the party day.

But how much does a wedding planner cost?

It depends from the services you need, it can be only a consultancy service or the full wedding planning service.  Many wedding planners charge a fixed fee based on the kind of wedding you want, other professionals charge by a percentage of the budget. In both cases, you won’t have to renounce to the services of a wedding planner. If you choose the right one he will be able to pay back his fee by making you spare a good amount of money.


How a wedding is organized: timing and priorities

When organizing a destination wedding there are priorities that you have to take in account in order not to risk thinking to flower arrangement or to invitations while missing fundamental factors that may affect the success of the event.

What are the things to do first?

Pick a date

The venue you chose determines in most cases the exact date, especially if it’s in hight demand, many venue are booked  months in advance, even years if it’s a very popular one, so in many cases the availability is not guaranteed. So you’d better start the search with a precise date in mind, it will simplify all work.

Paperwork first

Same-sex wedding is now recognized in many countries, but it’s important to have a clear idea of the Italian legal framework. If you decide to celebrate a legal marriage and not only a symbolic one, you must get properly informed in good time about the documents to produce. Also consider possible delays in receiving answers or documents.

Fix a budget

It’s important to have a clear idea of the total expense to understand the margin you can have and to measure all choices in function of the budget.

Find a location

The starting point is to find the right location, first of all to ensure the availability on the date, and also because it is a significant cost in the budget and once booked you can start thinking to all smaller cost items. Moreover, the venue is the choice which other stylistic choice will be all about.

What is a reasonable time to start planning a wedding?

Much depends from one’s character, but generally 18 months is a reasonable time. Considering that not only there is a wedding to plan, but you have also to arrange every aspect concerning guests, from information on accommodation and transports, and that every negotiation has to be done with a foreign vendor, it’s better to start well in advance.


Why a Gay wedding Agency

The ongoing struggle of the LGBT community for the recognition of equal rights should not – and in our opinion can not – be interpreted as the will of this community to identify themselves within the traditional institution of marriage as we know it today. Above all, we need  at this \”prehistoric\” stage of the gay marriage institution, to consolidate services and ceremonials elaborated on the specific needs of LGBT couples who do not want to simply borrow rules and canons from the traditional marriage, but need an attentive service to specific requirements. This is why we believe in the need to create a wedding agency specifically dedicated to the relationship with LGBT customers.


Your gay wedding in winter


Traditions are a very important part of the Italian culture, and the wedding ceremony is one of those events in which these tradition are still very much alive. Moreover all these traditions vary from region to region, and that’s what makes the famous “Italian wedding” so intrguing.
Now that Italian law recognises same-sex unions, LGBT couples can incorporate Italian Wedding tradition in their big day, and Orchestra can help them doing this.
Orchestra is the first Wedding Planner offering a LGBT wedding ceremony in an authentic Italian style.

Bomboniera, an Italian wedding tradition

bomboniera is what it’s usually called ‘party favor’; It’s a little sachet or box with confetti (sugar almondsin it that is given away at weddings or other parties. It very often comes with a more or less useful little object. It’s a tipical Italian tradition introduced at the end of XV century, from France. Its name comes from the use of aristocrats to bring with them little boxes with candies (bon bon in French) or other sweets in them.

In 1700, with the wedding of Victor Emmanuel III of Italy and Elena of Montenegro the bomboniera becomes part of the Italian wedding tradition as a thanking gift offered to all guests. Traditionally was a precious little object made of silver, crystal or porcelain

These days a bomboniera can be any sort of object, according to the bride and groom’s taste. It can be a usefull, traditional, glamour, echologic, fair trade or designer fancy object. It has become a tradition also the bomboniera made with some typical food products or traditional handicrafts.

Getting married in Italy, tisp for guests accomodation


Now that same-sex weddings are recognised in Italy too, the number of gay couples choosing to get married in Italy is growing constantly.  Mostly because they wants to get married in the land of their origins, but also because Italy still remains, in the one of the most romantic countries in the world. 

Organizing a wedding abroad often means spending a lot of time and money and, of course, energy. Add to that you have to manage guests’ accommodation and transportation.

Even though weddings abroad usually involves fewer guests, organizing their accommodation it’s not a simple job, and our advice is to rely on a wedding planner that knows the place well. But if you choose the do-it-yourself option, here’s some tips to deal with your relative’s accommodation:


Italy is the country of love but also the country of unforeseen events. The advice seems obvious , but it’s never too soon to start.


It’s not generally expected that you afford the costs of accommodation, but if you’ve decided to include your guests’ costs into your budget, take advantage of the special offers that tour operators and hotels do for groups. 


Inform your guests in time so that they can organize. Do not forget to give them additional  information such as weather tips or  Information about the area they are going to visit. 


Plan some trip for your guests that will allow them to appreciate the area in which you decided to get married . Not only cultural tours but also eno-gastronomic tours towards rhe discovery of the local culture. This will make their journey more pleasant but will also offer the bride and groom some relaxing moment after the ceremony.  


Unfortunately in Italy bureaucracy can be exhausting so to represent a further source of stress. If you decided not to rely on a professional, the advice is, once again, to start in advance. Moreover being sex marriages a “relatively new thing” in Italy, get informed on the documents you will need to avoid last-minute surprises.